If you and your son are to get all you can out of this program, it will be important to keep a few things in mind. How you live your life and the way you show your love for your son will be one of the most lasting lessons your son will take away from this program. This curriculum we provide will be beneficial, but the initiative, time, humility and vulnerability you provide are crucial. You will be asked to interact with your son on levels that may be new, different, and even a bit threatening. Take the opportunity to go out on a limb, leave your comfort zone, and forge a new kind of relationship with your son. After all, our heavenly Father left His comfort zone when He came to forge His relationship with us.
Prepare yourself. Your son might not be as enthusiastic about the Quest as you are. The point is not whether your son wants to do the program. The point is that you love your son and you want to spend time with him and watch him become the man God has created him to be. We will try to make things fun, but you must be intentional with the program. Remind your son how important he is to you and how much you love him. Remind him that you don’t want what’s good for him you want what’s best for him – even what’s great for him! Remind him that the pitfalls ahead are numerous and you know this because you’ve fallen into many of them. You want to equip him so that when he goes through his challenges, he will take them on with faith and courage. Express your sincere love and care for him and his future. This will be a great motivator to him. The way you live your life is as open as the evening news. If you have made mistakes, admit them, apologize if needed, commit to living out a better example and move on. It’s never too late to start modeling the type of man you want your son to be.
God is in control so let Him lead you. Enjoy the encouragement and camaraderie of the other dads involved. Be careful not to push too hard. “Fathers, do not exasperate your children” (Eph. 6:4). Enjoy your sons. “Sons are a heritage from the Lord” (Ps. 127:3). Allow them to enjoy you. “The glory of [a] son is [his] father.” (Prov. 17:6 RSV).
May God bless your desire, commitment and action to invest in your sons.